Monday, June 21, 2010

The end of my teenage-hood

My 20th birthday shindig was on Saturday night (my actually birthday isnt until next week) and I finally got to wear the lovely blue dress I mentioned in my post “Why my Mother is amazing…”. The night was hit mostly, the bands were fantastic and it was so good to catch up with everyone. A few things did go awry but nothing I cant forgive eventually…

We arrived early and got in a few cocktails before everyone rocked up and sat at the back on one long couch which was great because everyone could fit. Two of my best friends who previously did not get along had sorted everything out and they were both there, along with other great friends who I don’t see nearly enough. As always with a group outing a few people went missing and some drunken words were uttered but all in all a fairly good night. I didn’t expect everything to go to plan but I was very disappointed when one my best mates took off several times with another friend of hers and then didn’t re-surface until the rest of us had already arrived home.

There were two friends of mine who have let me down on several occasions whom, if they didn’t show would pretty much be written off in my friendship book (I know that sounds harsh but I don’t have time for wasters) but my best mate I did not expect to leave. Luckily, one the two who I wasn’t counting on turning up did :) The other messaged me last minute with some lame excuse and I haven’t even bothered to text back. Short of some amazing transformation where she actually makes an effort with their friends, I don’t believe I need to.

When I changed schools in year 10 I really learnt a lot about who my real friends are… people really show their true colours when they actually have to make an effort to stay in touch. Friendship is a two way street, if I have to make all the effort and have none returned I will eventually just give up. I am more then happy to help people out and always make time for people I care about, but when I realize that its just being taken advantage off I am less then forgiving. Time is something you can never get back, and I choose to spend my time with people I respect and care about. If you do not respect me and can not be a friend then you are wasting my time. My time, that I could be spending with people who actually care, REAL friends.

Anyway, at the moment I am less then impressed with a few people who really made me question our friendships… but I am overly impressed with the people who proved theirs. I have an amazing group of friends, who even though we don’t see each other all that often made the effort to come and see me on my birthday and enjoy a few drink and some good laughs. I am soooo thankful for them. They really made my night... On this more cheery note ill stop whining and fill you in on the rest of my night.
Drinks = fantastic. The barman at The Cavern was a real nice guy. I had so many different cocktails I can’t even remember, but I did try a shot called a “B52” which (besides the fact I don’t generally do shots and it had baileys in it which I am not keen on) was actually quite nice. I also had another drink that tasted just like a strawberry milkshake. The bands = amazing. Although I bought the Lucky Seven CD at their album launch a while back I didn’t get to hang around and see them play. I have had the album on repeat on my iPod since that night and was definitely not disappointed when I saw them, not only did they do some songs from the CD they also did Americano which I love too! And BONUS one of the guys actually commented on my dress and said my outfit was “impeccable”… Pretty sure that dress paid for it self right at that moment :) hehe. I did also get up the nerve to speak to the singer and tell him how wonderful I thought they were hehe. He was very nice and even wished me happy birthday. The other band of the night was The Saucermen, whom I had heard of but had not heard any of their music. They were fantastic too, and played some great rockabilly tunes including (my now favourite song of theirs for future reference) “the Ghost of Johnny Cash” which you can check out here.

A "B52" shot - Image from

Lucky Seven - Image from


The Saucermen - Image from
My dress as I think I’ve mentioned before did end up costing a bit more then expected, and then even more when I had to have the waist taken in… so when I was out I was slightly on edge about spilling anything on it. I managed to go the whole night at The Cavern with no spillage and made it to the Cranka… then my first drink there I had one sip taken from it before I wore it. One of the girls rushed me to the ladies and we soaked the dress and under the lighting in there we seemed to get it all off. I haven’t had the guts to look at the dress since I took it off that night and asked my Mum to take it to the dry cleaner for me as I do not know what I will do if its un-fixable :(

So please, send me all your dry cleaning luck in hopes it will be OK :)

And, without further a due here are some pictures from the night...
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  1. Happy birthday Miss Kitty! You look so lovely. Great dress. Sorry you were doubting some of your friendships :(

    When I first saw that image of the B52 shot, it looked like a fancy little candle. Ha ha!

  2. Thanks Ally! :)

    All is well, I would rather know these things then waste my time...

    haha, it does look like a candle now you mention it... much tastier tho.

  3. You look fantastic. Happy birthday!! Aw, yes, Jason (Lucky Seven singer) is SUCH a sweetie - he's always so friendly.
    -Andi x

  4. What a gorgeous dress, you look so lovely! Happy birthday!

  5. The color of that dress is to die for!

  6. Andi B - Thanks :) Jason really is, I look foward to seeing them play again VERY soon.

    Stefanie Valentine - Thankyou! :)

    Lizabeth - It really is, I love blue at the moment and this just blew me away.


  7. Happy Birthday!

    You look stunning. Gorgeous dress

    I am a dinosaur now but I actually spent my 20th at the Cranka, and many other boozy nights before I had my little one.

    Friendships are always complex, you never stop being tested by people but it gets easier as you get older.

    Be well:)

  8. Thanks Katie! :)

    Haha... seems the Cranka has been the place to be for a while then? Hope your birthday went better then mine there.

    Friends really are; I hope it does get easier. A Monroe quote really struck me yesterday: "I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."

    Its very true and I've finally realised it.


  9. I love Marilyn, another fantastic june baby. That quote is just everything I know now about friendship!

    The cranka has become much more hipper in the last 7 or so years before that is was semi-ok, always great music but not so much on the clean side. I bar hopped that night from the old proscenium when it was on blyth st and the bean bar (which is no longer) it was all a blur! I do know I ended in tears. I had just moved back from 2 years in sydney and had lost all of my previous Adelaide friends. People are not so loyal when you are young(er).

    I have had many friends let me down, especially in my 20's I think that is what your 20's are for, loving, learning and hurting. About 2-3 years ago I just let them go, it is scary, lonely and amazingly soul freeing to just "let go" you learn alot about yourself in the process.


  10. Marilyn was as smart as she was beautiful... She really hit the nail on the head with that quote.

    The Cranka still plays better music then the majority of places in town and the lounges are stairs are good but i suppose it is kind of hip now hehe.

    Sorry to hear your night ended in tears! That sucks. But hey "its your birthday, you can cry if you want to". Pity tho, birthdays are meant to be fun.

    Perhaps my birthday expectations are too high...

    I am really beginging to realise this, loyality still isnt quite engrained at my age... highschool mentality seems to be in the front of the brain still. Its sad, loyality is such an important trait in a person.

    Guess ive got alot of loving, learning and hurting to do over the next 10 years... I'm sure it will be scary but I can imagine the rush of just knowing who your real friends are, let alone knowing who you are.

    Getting older sucks... :| hehe...

  11. Love, love, LOVE that dress!
    Happy to find your blog.
    Please stop by and say hi. xo

  12. Thanks m.fay. I love, love, love it too hehe.